Grief can arise from a loss, whether large or small, and may not be easily eliminated once he settled down. Due to the stubborn nature of grief, many approaches have been developed to manage the repressive and often painful effects it can have on people's lives. One such approach is Elizabeth Kübler-Ross's theory, The Five Stages of Grief. In Sierra Skye Gemma's essay, "The Wrong Way," she juxtaposes her own personal experiences of grief with the Kübler-Ross hypothesis. Gemma uses her confessional, combined with empirical evidence that contradicts the five stages of grief, to demonstrate that feelings of grief are unique to each individual; therefore, there is no right way to grieve. From the information revealed in her essay, Gemma was quite familiar with loss. The list includes his father, his sister, his pet frog, his cat (temporarily), his first marriage, his grandmother and his grandfather. However, she does not claim to be an expert (16 years old) despite her numerous experiences. Instead, she criticizes so-called experts by stating that "you can be an expert on grief without having grieved at all." As long as you’ve seen enough people do it, you’re good” (18). Perhaps the reason for its censorship is that it is impossible to measure the ability to feel an emotion. Gemma also suggests that research by so-called experts is based on assumptions about human behavior and grief (16). Therefore, any conclusions drawn from the data collected by these researchers are invalid. Gemma's review focuses primarily on the widely accepted theory of the five stages of grief. The first incarnation of Elizabeth Kübler-Ross's 1969 hypothesis posited that grieving individuals go through denial, anger, bargaining, and depression ... middle of paper ... the right thing to do” (22). Deciding whether grief is a feeling rather than a process or ability changes the way people experience loss. If grief is just a series of stages, then people who have not reached the “acceptance” stage may have unresolved issues ultimately. If, on the other hand, grief is just a simple feeling, then there is no time limit or superior method for accepting loss. For Kübler-Ross, her way of dealing with grief might have required a clearly defined process. Conversely, the manner or level of Gemma's grief depended on the loss as an individual case. There are too many variables in human behavior to definitively determine which way of grieving is “natural” or “normal.” What can be inferred from "The Wrong Way," however, is that people develop their own method of coping, instead of conforming to someone else's, and still find 'acceptance..