One of the biggest problems in a romantic relationship is understanding how your partner interprets love. Most humans grow up learning the language of love from our parents, which becomes our mother tongue. As we get older, we can learn other languages, but usually with much more effort. In the area of ​​love, it's the same. Your emotional language and that of your spouse can be as different as Spanish and English. No matter how hard you try to express your love in English, if your spouse only understands Spanish, you will never understand how to love each other. It is rare for a husband and wife to have the same primary love language. We tend to speak our primary love language and become confused when our spouse doesn't understand what we are communicating. Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse's primary love language, you will have discovered the key to a lasting, loving marriage. I came across a book that really helps to discover how we perceive romantic love. It's called "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Sincere Commitment to Your Spouse" by Dr. Gary Chapman..