"These researchers compared children of divorced parents to children of married parents on various behavioral and emotional measures." Cherlin, JA, (2000). Children are usually sidelined during the divorce process. Parents often argue over who will get custody of the child(ren), but has anyone ever questioned them about what they want. I had no choice in choosing which parent I wanted to reside. I would have liked to be able to be taken into account during the discussions. Not that it would have made any difference to me, both parents still shared custody