By avoiding conflict and punishment, the child gets used to not suffering consequences. If this child entered a classroom and misbehaved, teachers would not ignore the problem, they would respond with punishment. Much of life is made up of actions and their consequences. My second question to Holden would be why he chose to study “positive parenting” and what was his approach to parenting his children? I believe people's opinions are shaped by their own experiences. For example, how Holden was raised and how he raised his own children. Has he seen the benefits of “positive parenting” and encountered some of its pitfalls? My final question would be how did the parents in the example react to their own recording and actions? Have they been able to think about their parenting style and decide for themselves if this is how they want to raise their child? Sometimes we don't realize what we're doing until we step back and see/hear it from an outsider's perspective. I completely agree with Holden when he says that these parents could have handled these situations differently. I believed in a mix of parenting styles that create a loving environment but also discipline the child, whether that's spanking when necessary or talking about it.