Both Buddha and Gyatso have a common understanding that there are many ways to find refuge. Gyatso gives several examples, such as: taking refuge in our parents, in a peer group and in individuals. For example, I always take refuge with my parents. I rely completely on my mother. Maybe because first of all she is my mother, and secondly I find in her this support that I cannot find in anyone else. I don't know what to call this connection... My mother is my biggest supporter, my biggest fan and my best friend. However, I know that one day I will no longer have this kind of support. Gyatso says that as people grew older, they realized that their parents could no longer make their feelings of loneliness go away and that they seemed to be the agents of our suffering. I disagree with this point because not all adults have misunderstandings with their parents. On the contrary, some adult children are even more concerned about their moms and dads. They show more love, care and respect now than when they were young. Furthermore, it is not true that our parents are the cause of all suffering, unhappiness and problems. In my opinion, we make ourselves suffer, we become sophisticated and we complicate our lives. Gyatso says that as people get older, they start to have a