Some men are criticized for being afraid of intimacy. The simple fact that the term is used as a criticism rather than just a reality shows that many men don't have this problem and that some women prefer men who are willing to share their emotions. Some men address the problem directly. In the essay “Can Gays and Straights be Friends?” ", Paul Monette says: "We make wonderful friends, we queers, perhaps because we have traveled so far to reach the free land of the heart. All people deserve to live there. » That he talks about homosexuals and heterosexuals is secondary to his idea that all men deserve to live openly, which includes expressing emotions. Men expressing themselves emotionally can be seen in many other places. If you listen to the radio, you're bound to hear a certain number of songs about sex, and probably an equal number about love or other emotions. All sung by males. The same goes for other pop culture media, like film and television. As these images become more visible, men are more likely to feel comfortable revealing their emotions. Although there are not as many men as women able to express their emotions, there are a much higher number than in previous years.