When dealing with children, parents and educators usually find it difficult to understand children in order to help them follow directions. It’s a great achievement to be able to engage with the children and keep them on the right path. When dealing with a child, it is very difficult to communicate, understand and listen in order to know how to guide the child. If all of these are achieved, it can lead to a positive relationship with the child into adulthood. If parents and educators are serious about creating open communication and a stable environment, they should use the book How to Talk to Get Kids to Listen and Listen to Get Kids to Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It can guide you to learn communication skills and help you deal with children better. “The Science of Raising Courageous Children” by Martin Brokenleg and Steve Van Bockern is evidence that validates the practice of Faber and Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids Listen and Listen So Kids Talk by Adele Faber and Steve Van Bockern, is a practical guide for parents but can also be used with educators to talk with children. The book was created by two mothers and authors who needed to find alternative solutions to better manage their children. They then held parent meetings to discuss other stories and teach each other how to handle confrontations with their children. It shows all the different types of scenarios a parent can experience with their child. In the book there are dialogues to describe potential correct and incorrect ways of speaking with children, according to the advice that has been researched and put into practice. The book also contains support that explains why a parent must change their middle of paper...... be nurtured for their own qualities and strengths. It is the job of the individual to raise the child to build their own self-confidence. Mazlish and Faber analyzed children's understanding in depth to conclude that children do not need to be put down but they also need to contribute to the stability of a family. The stability of families is what determines the functioning of society. The child should not be punished viciously to prevent him from destroying his being. Sincerity will go a long way in helping everyone achieve true happiness, because if one truly cares, then changes can be made. Works Cited Faber, Adele and Elaine Mazlish. How to speak so that children listen and listen so that children speak. New York, NY: Avon, 1999. Print. Bockern, S. V. & Brokenleg, M. (2003). The science of raising courageous children. Recovering children and young people, 12 (1), 22-26.