In-laws are increasing today, as are misunderstood families. Marriage is hard, but marriage with stepchildren is even harder. In the United States, statistics indicate that currently 16% of all married couples in this country have at least one stepchild [Marianne Dainton]. Additionally, current projections indicate that 35 to 40 percent of children born in the 1980s will spend time in stepfamilies before becoming young adults. It is therefore necessary for these children to understand and welcome in-laws in a positive manner. The remarriage of a custodial father and the arrival of a stepmother create a new role in the family that may be seen by children as a threat to family roles. When a woman is married to a man with a child, it makes these women anxious. “How to behave, how to love them and how to manage everything that can make everyone happy? » Thousands of questions like this cross the minds of their wives. Being a mother-in-law is new for a childless woman who has never faced a situation with children. She is about to enter a new life. These couples are easy to adapt to each other. The child-stepmother relationship is the one that experiences the most difficulties. Children take longer to accept a new person in their home. My research question is why stepmothers have so many problems adjusting to children. In my article I will focus on the myth of stepmothers, the unclear guidance and advice the stepmother receives, children's views on father and stepmother remarriages and also how these difficulties turn the mother-in-law into depression and a mean person. No one is perfect and yet we want to see the mother-in-law as a perfect role model. This forces them to work harder to fit into these categories and sometimes, while still a child...... middle of paper ......no envy and jealousy. " Journal Of Feminist Family Therapy 11.3 (1999): 1- 18. Alternative Press Index. Web. March 31, 2014. Marianne, Dainton. “Myths and misconceptions about the identity of the mother-in-law”, Np, nd Web . Martin, Wednesday, “Ban the “blended” family: why in-laws will never be the same as the first families.” Np, January 23, 2013. Web.Martin, Wednesday. Stepmonster: A new look at why real stepmoms think, feel and act the way we do. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2009. Print.Roosevelt, Ruth Barrons. and Jeannette Lofas. Living in Step New York: McGraw-Hill, 1977. Print.Marshall, Alice “Stepmothers can be MORE loving than a real mother.” Read more: Http://www. dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2091797/Stepmothers-MORE-loving-real-mum-thats-stepson-chose-live-me. " Np, January 25, 2012. Web.Stepmom, Dir. Chris Columbus, Colombia photos, 1998.