But it is a despair (still following Kierkegaard) that neither cries nor screams. People continue to live as if they were always in immediate contact with this living center. any other loss – that of a job, for example, or a leg – causes much more concern. This assertion by Kierkegaard coincides with clinical observation. Apart from the pronounced pathological conditions previously mentioned, his loss does not strike the eye directly and forcefully... And in his imagination he is different - so different, indeed, that his true self fades and fades even more ...instead of making his own efforts, for example in relation to human relations, the neurotic insists that others adapt to him...Instead of making his own decisions, he insists that others are responsible for him. His constructive energies are therefore fallow and he is in reality less and less determining for himself.